Should Married Women Wear Sexy Clothes?

Some husbands/boyfriends like their wives/girlfriends to wear sexy clothes, some don’t. Some say sexy clothes should be reserved for young singles. If I’m over 50 and in good shape, can I still be sexy and if so what should I wear? What do you think?

“Fit the figure” makes sense to me. Cher has reached an age where many styles may seem inappropriate for many women. But she has a figure that allows quite a large area.

“Fashion” and “fitness” are largely the result of environment, local mentalities and religion. There were (and probably still are!) times when the image of a woman’s bare ankle was scandalous; far beyond ‘sexy’.

The real question was: ‘Am I allowed to dress sexy if I’m over 50? and what is appropriate?’ I think ‘sexy’ is a state of being that is more than a particular item of clothing or the amount of skin on display. I’m over 50 and I’m plus size and I don’t feel sexy in a bikini. Or look sexy – but there are men (and women) in the world who disagree with that! However, I feel sexy and feminine when I wear a skirt and a blouse, a corset underneath, a hose and heels (no longer a surprisingly high heel). Some clothes (e.g. a suit) don’t make me feel ‘sexy’. But clothes that fit me well, float on my body and make me feel sensual can make me feel very ‘sexy’.

Well. Define ‘sexy’ first. Then find out what makes YOU feel sexy. And if you want, find out what your partner thinks looks sexy to you, and if you’re good at it, wear it.

However, if you want to wear fishing nets and shelf bras, I suspect you’ll get pretty intense whispers on the back of your hands about this in the United States. But if you don’t care (and it’s good for you if you don’t!) and it makes you feel sexy, go ahead. As soon as they’re out of sight, they’ll find someone else to whisper about the critics.

Ah… and what does being married have to do with that? Except if your partner has issues with you looking ‘sexy’ in public or just has issues with what you’re wearing and that’s really a whole different matter.

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